An Apple a Day? No, Thank You!

 

 

Strange title for a blog post, aint it? Well, here's why.  As some of you know, we have becoming devotees of the Feingold diet in our family. We've been on it for several weeks now and have seen some really wonderful results from it.  On FG, there's Stage 1 and Stage 2. We are, naturally, on Stage 1, but I'm chomping at the bit to go to Stage 2.  The only real difference in the two deals with something called 'salicylates.'  Don't ask me what this is exactly. I haven't a clue. All I know is this is found in many natural foods: apples, grapes, tomatoes, berries, certain spices. All good stuff, right?  For some people, though, salicylates can cause health and/or behavioral/learning problems.  This is why FG has you avoid these foods on Stage 1. During Stage 2 you can slowly and carefully re-introduce these foods, one at a time, to test for any possible reactions.

 

 

 

Me, being the inpatient person I am, decided we were ready to try some apples/applesauce.  Of course, I could have been influenced by my two preschool daughters' teachers, who are asking if I can send in appleasauce for snack. I'm already the crazy mom to them, I'm sure, who's asking that my children not use fingerpaints, lotion, or hand stamps.  (If you do FG, get used to certain people thinking you're a nutjob). So, yeah, I admit I rushed into Stage 2 a bit.  And besides, they're apples, for pity's sake! Surely my kids won't have a problem, right? Here's what I observed after a day or two of eating the stuff.

 

 

 

Vika, who had gotten to be such a happy, bubbly, laughing little thing the last few weeks, became, well, grumpy again.  Easily irritated, crying over trivial things.  I swear it's true.  Could apples really cause this? I wouldn't believe it if I hadn't lived it.

 

 

 

And then there's Millie. Prior to our apple experiment, she was amazing us daily with new sounds. She was able to sit still for longer periods of time.  She was becoming a new child. For real.  Enter apples, the sounds stop. she's back to her pointing and grunting for everything.  The familiar frustration of driving with her in the backseat returns.  Hearing her little sounds of wanting to tell/show me something but only being able to guess what it is. Before I was at least getting a beginning consonant or vowel.  How weird is that?

 

 

 

On the behavioral side of things, now I would tell her to do something and she would cross her arms, shake her head, and make sort of a 'nnnnn' sound. That's 'no' for her.  The tantrums returned, along with the screaming.

 

 

Mommy had made a big mistake. Fortunately, I was able to almost immediately link these behaviors to the apples. Problem is, apparently, this evil potion, chemical, whatever it is, salicylate, takes a long time to completely clear out of your system. It took 5-6 days until I noticed the kinder, gentler, happier, smarter children returning.  And yay! they're back!!

 

 

Let me tell you, I am dying to be able to cook with tomatoes again. Hands down, the hardest food to do without. No spaghetti sauce, tomtao sauce, regular pizza sauce. Ugh. No fun. Or let me rephrase that,  we're thankful to have enough food to fill our bellies, but it sure would be nice to have regular pizza with tomato sauce again. Please, Lord, someday?  But, after the failed apple experiment, I'm not in that big a hurry. Pleasant, teachable, vocalizing children are far more valuable.  

 

 



Reason #1

 Reason #1 why I love the Feingold diet

Quiet children!  I am often amazed these days to look up and see my children involved in their various pursuits and I didn't even realize they were in the room. Homework gets done, chores get done, play goes on and peace is maintained. Did you think that today's children were capable of being quiet? I'm not sure I did. Don't get me wrong, they can be loud. I wouldn't want children who weren't capable of getting a little rowdy, but overall, I am discovering a quietude in them that's new for us. And I love it!

 

 

 

 

 

It's been a long, long time. I thought it was about time to dust off the old blog and share some things that have been going on with our family.  I should probably give a rundown of everything that's been happening the past few months, but that is way more work than I have time for now.  Instead, how about some pictures of some things we did this summer with no particular theme, just Summer '12.  Here ya' go!

 

 

 

 

 

Checking out Lake Superior.  So so beautiful.

 



 

Visiting some of the waterfalls around Munising, MI. 

 

 My boy. He looks so much like my dad here.

 

 

 



 

 We took a boat ride to view some actual shipwrecks in Lake Superior. And we got to steer the boat!

 

 

 

  

Dutch Village, Holland, MI. The highlight of the dance was definitely when one of the dancers' wooden shoe flew off and landed in the nearby pond.  Exciting stuff.

 

 

 



Taking a break to cool off with Dad's soda.

 

 

 

Eva and I visited the Dunning Historical Museum in Plymouth, MI. They have a Lincoln exhibit with an actual lock of Lincoln's hair!

 

 

 

  

Another famous couple.

 

 

 

 

 Eva, Eli, and I toured the Jiffy plant in Dexter, MI and we got free stuff!!

 

 

 

  

Millie and Vika at the Detroit Riverwalk.

 

 

 

 

 

 Gabe and I went on a whole weekend date. We took in a Tigers game.

 

 

 

  

Visited the Detroit Institute of Art.  An awesome place to visit. We couldn't see it all in a few hours.

 

 

 

 

Visited Belle Isle.  Honestly, the aquarium was really sad.  Maybe one day it will be restored to its former glory.

 

 

 

 We cruised the Detroit River on the River Princess! The Motown show was good, but we did not do the Soul Train line but did enjoy watching others with a little alcohol in their system do it.

 

 

 



 

 General Motors world headquarters shot taken from the boat.

 

 

 

Now for some odds and ends.

 

 

 Kensington Metropark - When toddlers attack.

 

 

 

 

My super-duper-garage-cleaner-uppers.  Guess which one is not as eager to do his work?

 

 

 

And now, another sad installment of "what happens when dads dress kids." Truly a noteworthy entry.

 

 

 

Our Russian sweetheart loves the water. Can you tell?

 

 

I hope you all enjoy these few snapshots into our family's life this past summer. Another entry soon!



Good morning, friends.  I promised a little more detail on why we decided that we would not continue with our adoption of "Spencer." Well, better late than never.   I guess our hesitation all started a few months ago when I became very unexpectedly pregnant. A few weeks later, we found out it was a miscarriage. 3 weeks after that, I had a very scary, traumatic trip to the emergency room.  All is well now, but these events left me physically and emotionally drained.  I guess they took the steam out of us.  This was one factor in our decision.

The other, and really more important one, is the needs of our current children, particularly our 2 little ones.  Vika, who came to us through adoption last year, is doing very well. Yes, there are areas where we are all still adjusting since she came. We are still learning the best ways of parenting her. She still gets overwhelmed by too much commotion. We are trying to teach her more appropriate ways to ask for what she wants/needs. But overall, she has done very well.

It is our youngest bio child who is causing us the most concern right now.  She has some needs/behaviors that consume most of my energy daily.  If you know us or have followed this blog at all, you are probably aware of what those are.  We are exploring the best ways of helping her. But honestly, she is the child that causes me to feel like I'm a new parent. Like I don't know anything about raising children. She is a mystery child to me in many ways.

The decision that we made to not go forward with the adoption was exceedingly difficult. What would happen to Spencer?  It took us a while before we had the courage to make that call. To back out because it really seemed best for our family.

But we did.  And here's the good part. The very same day we notified RR of our decision, another family had already stepped forward to adopt him!! Did that make our decision easier, oh yeah! Spencer will have a beautiful family that has loved him for a long time.  And it really did confirm to us that we had done the right thing, for him and for us.

So this story really does have a happy ending. Spencer will have a family. And our family, well, we will be busy with the 4 blessings we already have.  We are looking forward to doing some things that we've put off for a few years.  With saving for adoption, the almost 2 years our last adoption took, paper-chasing, etc.  our lives have kind of revolved around adoption for the past 3 years. We've put off doing lots of things with the kids because we didn't want to spend the money or couldn't take the time.  So, we're going to try to kick up our heels a little bit, maybe get some things done around the house.  God led us to Vika and has really blessed us with her. We are looking forward to what He has in store for us next! 

Hello all. I am writing with some sad news today. After much wrestling and prayer, we have decided we can no longer continue with our adoption of Spencer.  We have some definite reasons that have led us to this decision. We are currently on vacation, so I must be very brief here. I will write a longer post when we return fully explaining how we came to this decision. Thanks for your understanding.

Someone's been a baaaaadd blogger! I know this update is way overdue. Somehow organizing my thoughts with 4 kids is way harder than it was with 3. And by the time the kids are all asleep and I have the time to write, well my brain's asleep too.  So with that apology out of the way, here's where we stand.

Last week, we were finally able to get our application (and check!) off to USCIS. For those of you who don't know, that is the federal agency that must approve our family to adopt and bring an international child into the country.  We should be getting our fingerprinting appointment in a couple of weeks or so to complete that process. 

Our dossier is almost complete - we just lack a couple of documents.  Maybe by the end of this week we'll have those in hand and I can take the whole pile of documents to the Secretary of State's office and get them apostilled. After that, we'll ship them off to a certain Eastern European country. After that, well, we wait for an invitation to travel.

We don't know much about the place where "Spencer" is (not his real name, btw).  No one from Reece's Rainbow has ever adopted from there. We have no idea - is it a institution? - which usually means a place that's not very nice to put it mildly, or possibly an older children school-type setting, which would certainly be preferable. We know one thing, this little boy needs a family and a real home. He was almost certainly abandoned because of one thing - he has Down Syndrome. A pretty sorry reason, but that's the reality in his country.  So as we wait, we pray that God would already begin to prepare his heart to blend into our family. And our hearts as well - to love him and accept him as one of our own. Thank you so much for your prayers and support toward that end, as well. 

Good Tuesday morning to you all! Here in SE Michigan it is a stormy, cloudy morning. The sky is the kind that fools me into thinking we might actually get some real thunderstorms, aka the Oklahoma kind, but that never happens :(

On the adoption front, we are scurrying around collecting documents for our dossier. I had forgotten what a headache (not to mention time-consuming) it can be trying to convince various officials to give you exactly what you need or else you cannot bring your child home.  We are making steady progress, thankfully, and I'm relieved to discover that this Eastern European country is not as nit-picky as a certain other Eastern European country.

Perhaps the most exciting development of the last week, though, has been Vika starting school!!

Really?! Yes, really!

Here's her on her first day with her wonderful, capable teacher.

The last year I've truly learned to appreciate those special-education professionals who understand and accept my little girls.  I've always thought of Millie's school as "the happiest place on earth" because the teachers and staff seem so positive and excited to be there.

In other news, a kind fellow-RR-supporter has offered to run a Pampered Chef fundraiser for us to help us with the costs to adopt Spencer.  Here is the link to the site where you can go to purchase some items with a percentage of every item going to our adoption. You know Pampered Chef is good stuff, so go check it out: www.pamperedchef.biz/marysnooks  Just enter my name - Melanie Jim for host at checkout.

Many thanks!!